Lana's Little Things #171 -The Danger of Toxic Positivity and Suppressing Our Emotions⚠️
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Welcome back!
1/ What is "toxic positive positivity" and why is it dangerous?
2/How are we faced with it in daily life?
3/How can we validate our feelings; "feel, deal and heal"? ❤️🩹
While it is important to focus on the positive outcome of a situation and not dwell on our troubles and challenges in life, toxic positivity is another mindset that can actually detract and detach us from having meaningful relationships and feeling guilty and disconnected.
It is bad for our mental health.
1/Toxic positivity is the assumption that no matter what is happening in our lives, however sad, disruptive or stressful, we must maintain a positive attitude and simply say "All is well".
2/ Our feelings, our emotions are all valid and we cannot just "turn them off" or sweep them under the carpet. That makes it worse and according to some medical research, can cause issues from insomnia to substance abuse.
We must validate our feelings , "face our dragons" (what we fear), in order to heal and achieve our goals.
To combat this negativity posing behind the all too familiar mask of : "Everything is good"; "I have no troubles or worries", we heal by:
1/Remaining present with ourselves - deep breathing, meditation and prayer work. Call a trusted friend with whom you can freely share your feelings.
2/ Face/acknowledge our fears and concerns - they makes them appear less threatening and we can then see a way through to:
3/Make a list of practical steps that we can take to, for example manage our finances, make our goals and dreams more clear, and be focused ; one step at a time.
Feeling all our feelings, painful or not, keeps us grounded.
We do not have to "go it alone". We should not.
From my heart to yours always💗
Lana
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When Family Caregiving is too much and you've "had it up to here" 😤😡😒
There are times when you have to remove the "super cape " of being a loyal, kind, self-sacrificing Caregiver and yet you feel unappreciated, misunderstood, and "unheard". 😤😡😒
Fun fact: "you're human". It happens.😤
What can you do/become to face the challenges of a bad day as you only have control of your own thoughts?
Here are 3 ways to hit the mental and emotional "reset".⏱️🌞💖
1/⏱️Box breathing - Imagine a square box 📦 , close your eyes and inhale for 4 seconds in the top left corner - hold your breath for 4 seconds as you draw a line across to the upper right corner then exhale; (hold your breath on the lines for 4 seconds); draw a line down to the bottom right corner; hold for 4 seconds, draw a line across to the bottom left corner; hold, then inhale; lastly draw a line up to the first corner and exhale. Breathing this way slows your overactive, stressed mind and calms you down . You may need to do this a few times .
2/⏱️Connect with your Higher Power- however you pray, you need to tap into guidance and faith for better days .
3/⏱️Connect with friends who know you well, with whom you can safely "vent".
Caregiving is not for the fainthearted, and there are times when you need to let yourself be taken care of.
From my heart to yours always💗
Lana
Lana's Little Things #158 - " Hot Days!!🌞🔥🥵- Why Hotter Days Can Mean Danger😲⚠️For Older Persons.
#climatechange #heatexhaustion #staycool #familycaregiver #heat #lanaslittlethings #compoundhabits
The days are getting hotter!!🌞🔥🥵-
Join me tonight as I discuss not only why hotter days, dust and other effects of climate change on older persons and some of the ways to
🌞🔥🥵-Recognise the signs
🌞🔥🥵-Mitigate the dangers
Older persons have a unique physiology- simply put- the usual cues for things we tend to take for granted, such as signs of thirst, temperature change and reduced mobility and when your Family Caregiving brain feels overwhelmed and is spinning with uncertainty how can you keep yourself and loved ones safe as we move into hotter days?
Awareness is key.
Tonight we explore the effects of 1/ heat exhaustion 2/ Lung infections from dust pollution and how to stay healthy by knowing the signs.
Be aware, spread awareness!
Climate change affects us all!🌞🔥🥵-
From my heart to yours always💗
Lana
