LLT#196 - Are You Ashamed of Your Age, Your Ageing Family? Age Shaming: my Pet Peeve! Let it STOP!
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Welcome back Family Caregivers, Older Persons and Fellow Physicians
Ageing is : fun, a time of renewal, an opportunity to mentor, to make new friends, live life!
And yes, reality check!
It IS a time when things are what they are🤷🏽♀️
Yet older persons are increasingly made to feel: valueless, ashamed of their age, of who they are, withdrawn into a shell of inaction and decline many times because society has generally "dismissed them".
Enter shame, guilt, embarrassment.-- MY PET PEEVE- age is NOT a disease!
According to one definition: Shame is the feeling that "something is wrong with me," worsening with the effects of the aging process: physical losses, emotional losses, memory losses, and losses of friends and family, all in the face of an indifferent and shaming society.
Shame, fear of "disclosing family business" and harmful gossip lead many to "hide" the realities of ageing, Family Caregiving, the feeling of helplessness, physician and Caregivers burnout, and a never ending cycle of --'We DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!", but "Who is there to talk to?"
Shame, guilt and embarrassment are only faced and resolved with CONVERSATION, COOPERATION, and a willingness to SHARE.
SUPPORT is what we ALL need.
Associate with peers, friends, share concerns, develop community groups.
If this is too much, and you need some formal , official "Clarity Call" - please contact me at www.lana's littlethings.com, or directly at lana@lanaannemd.com
Yet: it starts within-
Focus on the 5 "F"s:
1/ Fun 2/ Friendship and Family 3/ Focus (mindset) 4/ Fitness (start low and go slow) and 5/ Fluids (hydrate! - it does help , in everyway!
You Got This!!!💘🎯We Got This!🎯💘🫱🏽🫲🏾!
From my heart to yours always!💗
Dr. Lana
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Overwhelmed? Let's connect: 📧lana@lanaannemd.com
For more insights and connect for a FREE face-to-Face 15 minute Zoom call, and a place where we can connect as physicians on my website:
lanaslittlethings.com
If you're a Family Caregiver at your wit's end, needing a different perspective, set up your free 15-minute coaching call-also by email -lana@lanaannemd.com - or on lanaslittlethings.com.
I always look forward to meeting Fellow Family Caregivers- we gotta stick together!💯
#gettingolder #fearoftheunknown #financialplanning #funeralplanning #takechargeofyourlife #familyhistory #mindfulness #healthylifestyle #counselling #endoflifeplanning #endoflifecare #
What do YOU Fear the most about getting old?
Is it - arthritis? Losing your hair, wrinkles (face it it's a true fear); being alone?
Actually, most of the research suggests it is NONE of those things....
It's actually.... MONEY !!💸😱. It seems to take wings and fly faster as you age.
Is this YOUR situation? THE TOP 10 FEARS OF SENIORS:
💸😱1/ Do I have enough retirement savings?
💸😱2/ What if I lose my job before I even get to retire?
💸😱3/ What if my spouse or I get sick- how will our money, savings (if any), be enough? This seems to apply to women especially - generally, women outlive men, but may not earn as much; what happens if the bread winner dies?
💸😱4/What if I run out of money to pay bills? Rent? Mortgage?
💸😱5/ Will I ever repay my debts before I die?
💸😱6/ Do I even have enough money for my funeral (end of life planning)?
💸😱7/ What if my Identity is stolen and I lose all my savings anyway?
💸😱8/ What if the stock market crashes and inflation rises beyond my means?
💸😱9/ Have I become replaceable by computers (and therefore lose my position, title, or job entirely?)
💸😱 10/ What if I don't have enough money for basic healthy food items, vitamins, special diet if needed?
These are REAL fears ; but please don't despair!
You CAN:
💰😊✅1/ Talk to your family, trusted fiends and m]health care provider about seeking financial advice- It is NEVER too late!
💰😊✅2/ Do what YOU can in taking a good hard look at your expenses- is there ANYTHING that may be cut down or out so there is at least something you can set aside- it may not be a s bad as you think!
💰😊✅3/ CLICHE - DO the best you can, and less worry!- (It can only shorten your lifespan anyway!🤷🏽♀️
LIVE- HAVE A GOOD LIFE! YOU DESERVE IT! AT ANY AGE!💗💯
Good vibes always!💗
From my heart to yours always💗
Dr. Lana
Main research: www.seniorliving.org
(Disclaimer: this is not meant to dictate medical information; please see full advice from your medical doctor)
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Overwhelmed? Let's connect: 📧lana@lanaannemd.com
For more insights and connect for a FREE face-to-Face 15 minute Zoom call, and a place where we can connect as physicians on my website:
lanaslittlethings.com
If you're a Family Caregiver at your wit's end, needing a different perspective, set up your free 15-minute coaching call-also by email -lana@lanaannemd.com - or on lanaslittlethings.com.
I always look forward to meeting Fellow Family Caregivers- we gotta stick together!💯
